A question was posed to me on Quora today and the question was, have I ever asked myself, “Why me?” – My response was yes; I have asked myself “Why me?”  – I now ask myself, “Why not me?”

When I think back to when I’ve asked myself, “Why me?” I was in a space where I felt powerless to make any solid changes. Asking myself that question only helped me to trade my inner power for victimization of self. Placing myself in a victimized mental state with repetitive closed ended questioning drained me of my energy. It’s not that I desired to think like this or feel this way, but I honestly didn’t know how to think any differently. It was very hard for me to create the life I wanted while continuing to think in the same way. I got fed up and decided to ask the question a different way. I began asking the question in a way that helped position me to open up my mind in order to perceive things in a way that worked for me, not against me. 

Changing the way that I asked this question, empowered me to become an active participant in the life that I desired. I started asking myself, “Why not me?” This new style of how I examined the question, positioned me to look at things transparently and in a matter of fact kind of way. In this new space my ability to go from victim to victor happened very quickly for me. When I changed my perception, I changed my life. 

In the event that I am not pleased with my current version of reality, I still ask myself, “Why not me”? I do this because it is imperative that I recognize the role that I play in my life, as well as the lives of others around me. If I need to make changes, so be it. At that point instead of beating myself up or feeling bad about my circumstances, I take action in pursuing the steps necessary for the change I wish to create. In doing so, I enforce the transformation effortlessly. I can choose to be a victim, or I can choose to be victorious in all things. 

“Why not me?”