What is an opinion, a thought that can be changed, a view or judgment formed about something not necessarily based on fact or knowledge but based on how we think things should be. What is fact, a thing that is indisputably the case, can’t be argued or altered, such as 5+5+10. Yet we walk around with opinions and view them as facts then often wonder why the life we see is full of turmoil, heartbreak and misery.

Our opinion of ourselves, situations and others have never been helpful to us just a cause of judgment, self-condemnation and harm to the life we all have been given out of love. Opinions are thoughts that often change based on individual social conditioning as well as what we feel currently. So why hold on to the opinions when they are clearly not facts and cause division?

Opinions, the root of all harm; Opinions, the cause of illusion outside and within, fuels hatred and causes us to judge poorly and inaccurately. We judge incorrectly because we don’t have all the facts about any one thing entirely. What we do have is fragments of our own perception of reality, which is usually based on our beliefs and past history.

Opinions who told us we should have them anyway? Are we the Creator or Master of the Universe, of course not; we do however, hold the power within our hearts to get what we give out and this is definitely one of life’s laws. This life law I speak of is called karma therefore judge not, throw those opinions out. Our opinions of others, situations and ourselves will mimic back to us 100 fold each and every time, there is no getting around it. So do yourself a favor, renounce those opinions once and for all!

The trick is this, to acknowledge our opinions and simply surrender them. Clear out the opinions and judgments that feed our minds and hearts entirely. Decide to not hold on to them anymore. Do this by recognizing and acknowledging the opinions you hold and deciding that they no longer benefit you after all. Intention and attention is all that’s needed to make a difference. It is the opinions that cause us to feel separation from the source of all greatness. It’s our opinions that cause us to blame, internalize resentment and be led by un-forgiveness. How would this kind of thinking ever cause happiness within, truth is, it can’t.

Judge NOT lest ye be judged is a powerful teaching in the statement alone. These opinions or should we say judgments have given an illusion of separateness, damnation and fear and guess what, its time to call it quits! We now know better, so we must do better and the only opinion that should be made is this, none. Be a watcher, see things and decide to simply let them go.

Detach from all expectancy. Allow people to be who they are. Every individual is on their own path of evolution.

When we allow ourselves and other people to freely be themselves while offering acceptance of individuals or circumstances; We do one of the two: 1. Grow in love.  2. Separate in love.

When we decide to grow together in love, relationships and circumstances bring the best out of us, not the worst. Growing in love, we realize there is a continual effort to build one another as well as the relationship. All parties are aware of this and equally participate in the growth of themselves, their relationships and others. There is lightness of flow, happiness that stems from the heart and a willingness to give without expectancy. The relationships provide peace, harmony and unity. The choice to walk in love has been made the key priority.

When we decide to separate in love, we acknowledge the fact that we are not good for one another. The situations or circumstances breed anxiety and fear. The relationship does not promote growth or embody love. There is constant discord and the unwillingness to compromise beyond oneself. Criticism, attack and blame seem constant. However, we don’t judge ourselves or the other parties involved. There is no blame necessary, as we have all played our parts.  The good. The bad. The ugly. We are aware and simply decide we are better off apart, well wishes given. No malice, hatred or bitterness felt. We separate in love, while allowing true fruitfulness of love to take form for others and ourselves.

Awareness of either choice is key. Remember there’s always an effortless flow to what’s supposed to be. In order to allow that flow, you’ve got to move yourself out the way and allow our Creator to dictate what relationships and or circumstances come and go for us. When we allow, we then enable freedom that offers a detachment to the outcomes we have formed for ourselves within. We then no longer feel the need to dictate or control how things take place or unfold outside of us. We simply allow and place our entire expectancy on our Creator, never on a circumstance or an individual.

Decide to make the choice to remain aware our own internal compass, our own continual growth. Decide to allow things to take shape naturally. Decide to drop feelings of animosity, blame and bitterness. As all these emotions come from an unwillingness of acceptance, to what we think or how we feel things should have been. When we attempt to control the outcome of circumstances or relationships we imprison ourselves emotionally and mentally.

    Let go. Be fee. Allow others to do the same damn thing. Repeat! 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How do I not take offense when I am filled with words, actions and thoughts from the past? How do I learn to love, when the life I have lived, so full of abandonment, addictions and at times even hatred from those who claim to love and support me throughout my existence? What was the meaning of the experiences after all? To avoid love or live in pain either choice is one in the same.

How do I continue to do what’s right – I’ve been taught that life is supposed to be a fight. Now I see I have been misguided, entirely. God said his yoke was easy to carry, burdens light. So why do I feel as though I need to fight? I don’t actually. There aren’t any fights other then the wars created within me, stemming from negative thoughts I have decided to carry.  If I simply let it all go would there be any controversy, it simply would not be.

How and why do I fight to remain in control, control of everything outside of me? I realize this type of thinking is pure insanity. We are to work on things we can change; allow the rest to take form and be shaped by life’s universal energy. So what can I actually control? I can control me! I decide to take control by deciding not to focus on or judge things that’s happening outside of me, but instead do my part to transform my current version of reality. But how to do that is the key and that is to begin by transforming thoughts of fear, anger and hatred to acceptance, freedom and genuine trust in my creator.

I am aware that this type of trust that I speak of can only come from my spirit, my heart. I can control my emotions based on what my spirit tells me, not what my mind thinks it knows. I can control who and what I allow to affect my energy. This is where my work is to be done.

How do I remain true to who I know myself to be, if every person around me is trying to change and shape me into what they want me to be? After all, we were born to be unique, grow into whom we were born to be, a magnificent masterpiece filled with an abundance of love given to circulate more of.

The Lesson: Learn to love in order to dim the pain. Hurt people generally hurt other people way more then they likely know. Love trumps hate but very few people practice love, but would rather argue, disagree and make that their ultimate truth. Closing off to their core, their nature and this is to love, unite and create abundance of everything desirable, everything lovable, everything true within you.

Fact is this – until we change the cycle of hatred, anger and violence we recreate what we hate, as opposed to putting out flames by deviating from the fuel that adds to the flame.  In order to produce what I love, I’ll simply make the shift from the insanity of trying to control things outside of me to working on what’s inside of me and putting on God’s armor daily! (Ephesians 6:10-18 (NIV)

 Your value can never be decreased based on someone else’s inability to see it.

Start your day in gratitude while also giving thanks for your very existence, understand and know you are a miracle and you’re here on this earth for a reason. When we start our day in gratitude life has a way of giving, providing more of and showing us more to be grateful for throughout the day. It’s sort of like a domino effect; how we start our day is usually the precursor to the rest of our day. Appreciation and gratitude leads to unsurpassed happiness, which in turn boosts your confidence, go ahead and try it!

Be aware of the thoughts that circulate, as this is a big contribution to the ill will feelings we harbor. Due to our constant need to evaluate characteristics, accomplishments and what we view as failures for ourselves as well as others. Reflect on things you like about yourself as well as things you do well. Make mental notes (visualize) and set goals to work on anything you have the ability to change. Focus on your goodness. Throw out all the nonsense that stems from negative opinions, even your own.

Never compare yourself or life situations to or with anyone else, you’re not them and they’re not you and there’s a big reason for that too! Just think there is nobody on this planet with the same DNA makeup as you, nobody who can smile exactly as you do. There’s nobody and I mean nobody that has the voice you do, or even touches the way that you do! There is confidence in itself knowing there isn’t anyone on this entire universe that can be YOU! Spend time each day learning and growing into the beautiful being in you, that is you while learning who you truly were made to be.

Know without a shadow of a doubt that there isn’t anything that needs to be added or taken away from you because you were made exactly how you were supposed to be, You. We are born whole, lacking nothing and given everything we need to function in this life, accordingly. All else are mere things we acquire based on perceived desired needs.

Be kind to, accept and appreciate the soul, body, mind and emotions you’ve been given. Never focus on what you think you don’t have enough of, and I mean on any level.  Understand that your uniqueness is what makes you, why try to be somebody you’re not so others can accept you; fact is you don’t have to. Accept and love wholeheartedly your individuality. You came to this world exactly how you were meant to be and the #1 rule is accepting that fact entirely. Love who you are, accept and appreciate the journey because you darling, are a One of   a Kind, Confident Masterpiece!