I have seen far too many times than I’d like to recount the abuse and misuse we place upon ourselves. We can give love, attention and kindness to others but fail to give it to ourselves. Becoming unbalanced we drain ourselves and can’t seem to find any reasons as to why. Generational curses and religion bind us with thoughts of who we shouldbe and what needs to be done in order to be sinless. That sounds like pressure and God’s yoke is easyand burdens lightso what are we missing? The truth is this, to sin is to miss the mark of unconditional love, period. Unconditional love isn’t earned, it’s simply given. Yet, conditional love is how we’ve been taught to love others as well as ourselves. We all have done this so there isn’t any blame at all. We teach what we learn. It’s time that we retrain and teach in a different way. Do you agree?

To sin, means what exactly? How much do we really know? According to Wikipedia, sin is an act of transgression (sin, trespass, violation, wrongdoing) against divine or natural law. Sin can also be viewed as any thought or action that endangers the ideal relationship between an individual and God; or as any diversion from the perceived ideal order for human living. So, if sin is an act of transgression against divine or natural law – what is divine or natural law? Webster’s Dictionary stated natural law is: a body of law or a specific principle held to be derived from nature and binding upon human society in the absence of or in addition to positive law and divine definition is this: of, relating to, or proceeding directly from God. To miss the mark is to see division and inequity. To miss the mark means to judge according to the limited mental knowledge we consume. There is only one consciousness that knows all and sees all, the master of the Universe, God; only God can judge.  

What is the definition of love?  Biblically -1 Corinthians 13:4-7 New International Version (NIV) states:Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. And, according to Merriam Webster’s Dictionary, love: strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties maternal love for a child. We claim love is unconditional, but all the conditions are artifacts we use, when giving love. Condition is all we seem to live by, all we seem to know. 

Do we love in an unconditional manner, or do we condemn and hate the unfavorable? The unfavorable can even be us, after all the worse condemnation is condemnation of self. We cannot change the world unless we first change ourselves. Changing the misconception requiresallto be healed, not just a few. We are here to learn that unconditionalis the only way to love. Limitless, pure potentiality at its best is love. Harming oneself and another by placing boundaries on the level of love being given, based on their circumstances and learnedbehavior; how is it that we claim to love in this way? 

To sin: is to notsee yourself and others how God perceives you, perfect. To be sinless: walk in acceptance and love. To be sinless: embrace who you are, flaws and all. To be sinless: avoidance of comparison; you are you, embrace, don’t reject that fact. To be sinless: is to see love in another, through the awareness in you

1 John 4:18 states: There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.When we are fearful or doubtful, we are not walking in love; but in disapproval of ourselves. This disapproval bleeds into our relationships, finances and so on. Fear wreaks havoc on our lives and will take over if we aren’t aware of what’s true for us. The bible states God’s people parish from lack of wisdom and this is because we have taken on the beliefs of the world as opposed to staying close to the spirit who lives in us. The mind is filled with hogwash from eons ago and we base our lives on the intelligence of our minds. When we do this, we turn away from our spirit. If we decide to live through our mental conditioned self (ego) instead of who we are internally (spirit) we become divided. Division leads to ruin. Ruin leads to death. 

We were not to become like the world but be lights of the world, by being transformed and renewed through the retraining of our minds. The bible instructs us to be diligent in retraining our minds to not adapt the societal divisions of the world. In Romans 12:2 we are told not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.We fear the unknown based on limiting beliefs of the world. This isn’t love. Fear and love cannot coexist. Fear harms, love heals and restores. Fear divides, love conquers all. Let me be clear, our way of doing things based on mental concepts or conditioning alone, will neverwork in leading us to our destiny. We must be present and aligned in order for limitless pure potentiality to flow within us. 

But how do we usually practice love? I don’t know about you but here’s what I see: Conditional love given when things go how we thinkthey should. Usually we love ourselves when our life is in order, just how we like it. Otherwise, we beat ourselves up, feel guilty and wonder what we are doing wrong. We compare ourselves and our lives to everyone else. We then push ourselves to go the extra mile, hoping someone would notice. Simply put, we look for gratification and love in others. We love our spouse when they take the time to give us the attention we crave; otherwise we complain and withdrawal, we might even be mean. We openly love and praise our children when they are making straight A’s and enjoying extra circular activities; otherwise we continuously let our disappointments be known; compare and punish for falling short of what we expect them to be. We are courteous and respectful to the CEO, nevertheless the Janitor can’t even get a hello. We praise the rich, look down on the poor. And finally, we walk around with fake smiles and shattered hearts, not knowing how to mend it at all. We have been hurt. We have become broken pieces of what love is supposed to be. Sounds like loving based on condition to me. 

How are we loving and complaining at the same time? We are not. How are we loving and angry at the same time? We are not. How are we loving, yet condemning, placing blame and pointing fingers? We are not. We are either choosing to love or we are feeding the conditioned picture of division and condemnation, which is simply serving the dysfunction of this world. Anything divided will not and cannot stand. If we are complaining based on falling short of the perfection, we think we should be living up to we aren’t loving ourselves; this is beating ourselves up unnecessarily. 

We are on a journey in this life and we will get to our destined place, if we know and practice the truth that sets us free. There isn’t any love in condemnation. To love is to be free. To love is to allow. To love is to grow. To love is to nurture. To love is to embrace the newness of what can be. To love is to love yourself and others exactly as we are, expressions of love. Love isn’t based on habituated illusions of what we think shouldbe.  

We know in order to receive, we must give first. If we aren’t giving love and acceptance to ourselves, how will we continue to grow? Voids that won’t go away is a sure sign that love needs to be replenished on the inside. If the love we see is limited to outside sources, does that mean love can only be conquered through something or someone else? Think about that for a second. The storm and the calm can only be felt first, within. So, in other words anything that rest outside of you can never fill the emptiness that’s felt within you. But on the contrary, once the emptiness has been filled on the inside, outside desires begin to come into fruition, automatically.  

Fall in love with the essence of life. Fall in love with the beauty in, through and around you. Begin to wake up and feel life, in totality again. Fall in love, in spite of. Make a choice to walk in love. Fall in love with the being that is, you. Far too many times than not, we see love and joy in everything but ourselves. But, how is this so? How can we see in others, what we refuse to see in ourselves? If in fact we areable to perceive greatness in others, doesn’t that mean, what we see in others, is also in ourselves. Love is unconditional. Love is you. 

 

Change your mind, how do you ask? I say by simply deciding to do so. Change your mind. Its impossible you say but no, it’s not impossible. All things are possible within you and me. The question is, do you believe it’s possible? Your belief is key. Where there isn’t any belief, there isn’t any power you see. Change your mind it’s for the best. What we create comes from our precepts. Precepts that were learned and accepted by us continue to recirculate and condemn us.  Are we living according to a new or an old belief system? Are your precepts keeping you accepting, loving and understanding or causing strife, condemnation and separation among you? If you’re in a state of unhappiness I say the latter is true.

Change your mind, undue the cruelty of unjust opinions that have been thrown at you. Change your mind and forgive. Forgiveness isn’t for the people who have caused harm to you. Forgiveness frees you from the pain that binds you. So no, forgiveness isn’t for them, it’s for you.  Change your mind, you were made perfect and your job on earth is to love and accept yourself as such knowing you are very much so deserving. The way you live and walk in your purpose is to not allow old precepts steal your joy and focus. Change your mind all things great depend on it.

Listen for the negativity your mind continues to feed you then lovingly redirect those thoughts by replacing them with positive talk. Change your mind by being aware of what it is you’re thinking about then redirect thoughts free of judgment full of acceptance and understanding. Change your mind, create happiness, the lie of being underserving is no good for you. Change your mind from the things you see and create from a state of love and peace. Change your mind from anything that doesn’t benefit to all things that do. Reflect on all things great. When you do this your awareness makes a shift from dormant to awake! The power within you begins to take over for you. Your life has begun to change and you feel a strong desire for more! No longer defeated but now you feel strong! Your focus has gone from negative to positive and all you had to do was change your mind and be diligent at it.

Changing your mind is simply another decision to go in the opposite direction.  Which direction have you decided on? For me, I have chosen to learn to understand, love and accept myself (human nature flaws and all). It definitely feels better and helps me to understand and love outside of myself much better, which in my opinion is the ultimate goal of the universe to love, accept and restore brokenness to ONE.

What have you been creating for yourself thus far? Change your mind, visualize your desires then release your wants to your Creator, you’ve now done your part; this is how you rebuild your trust in the universal flow. Change your mind from negative to positive, its not hard my friend all you need is for your intentions to be clear without judgment or doubt. Change your mind, I promise you can do it. Need some help, I’ll be glad to help you through it.

 

Detach from all expectancy. Allow people to be who they are. Every individual is on their own path of evolution.

When we allow ourselves and other people to freely be themselves while offering acceptance of individuals or circumstances; We do one of the two: 1. Grow in love.  2. Separate in love.

When we decide to grow together in love, relationships and circumstances bring the best out of us, not the worst. Growing in love, we realize there is a continual effort to build one another as well as the relationship. All parties are aware of this and equally participate in the growth of themselves, their relationships and others. There is lightness of flow, happiness that stems from the heart and a willingness to give without expectancy. The relationships provide peace, harmony and unity. The choice to walk in love has been made the key priority.

When we decide to separate in love, we acknowledge the fact that we are not good for one another. The situations or circumstances breed anxiety and fear. The relationship does not promote growth or embody love. There is constant discord and the unwillingness to compromise beyond oneself. Criticism, attack and blame seem constant. However, we don’t judge ourselves or the other parties involved. There is no blame necessary, as we have all played our parts.  The good. The bad. The ugly. We are aware and simply decide we are better off apart, well wishes given. No malice, hatred or bitterness felt. We separate in love, while allowing true fruitfulness of love to take form for others and ourselves.

Awareness of either choice is key. Remember there’s always an effortless flow to what’s supposed to be. In order to allow that flow, you’ve got to move yourself out the way and allow our Creator to dictate what relationships and or circumstances come and go for us. When we allow, we then enable freedom that offers a detachment to the outcomes we have formed for ourselves within. We then no longer feel the need to dictate or control how things take place or unfold outside of us. We simply allow and place our entire expectancy on our Creator, never on a circumstance or an individual.

Decide to make the choice to remain aware our own internal compass, our own continual growth. Decide to allow things to take shape naturally. Decide to drop feelings of animosity, blame and bitterness. As all these emotions come from an unwillingness of acceptance, to what we think or how we feel things should have been. When we attempt to control the outcome of circumstances or relationships we imprison ourselves emotionally and mentally.

    Let go. Be fee. Allow others to do the same damn thing. Repeat! 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lie. Cheat. Master Manipulator. You wreak havoc with your constant infidelities. Your actions indirectly cause me to question my worthiness, my appearance and at times the point of my existence. I start to walk in fear. Do you love me? Will you be there? What have I done to cause this outpour of rejection bestowed upon me? When questions like this begin to plague me, we’ve run our course. We are not meant to be.

Boy Bye!

You want sex, hot meals and flawed skin on demand. A home kept clean and nice, quiet and comfortable when you get home. Rub your back; raise the kids; hold you down but never did you truly intend to make this house our home. Do you invest your fidelity, energy and time? Can I call on you to be there for me, when it’s my time to be in need? Or will you simply offer empty excuses as to why you couldn’t be?

Boy Bye!

When trials come to test integrity, honesty and loyalty, you know the characteristics you only intend to receive; you fail each time, resorting to phony apologies and fake tears. But trust, that karma can definitely be a bitch! You’ll soon see how it feels to be with someone who embodies self-interest and deceit. I know longer fall victim to your manipulation tactics, I guess it was fun for you while it lasted.

Boy Bye!

Why is it that you tell me, you can’t stand the thought of another being loved by me? Yet, you’re the one who seems to cause the most harm to me. Have you truly loved me unconditionally? So busy looking at what it takes to give instead of realizing all you had to gain in me. I doubt that you actually took the time to get to know me. I’m starting to see that you came not to give, but only to take which will only suck the life out of me. Now you know I won’t just sit back and allow such foolery to be done to me. One day, you’ll realize and see what you’ve lost when you betrayed me.

Boy bye!

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not mad or bitter. In loving you, I have learned how to love and value me so much better! You have taught me exactly what I don’t want for me, things I won’t accept from, or for myself because I know better. Had I not come across you, I wouldn’t know how to properly value individuals who actually do tell the truth. I now see how important it is to value myself first, above all else. In doing so I can properly discern individuals, who genuinely respect, love and care for me unselfishly. Thanks to you, I was able to witness what the absence of truth will do.

Boy Bye!

In the beginning, it was finished! God did what He was going do for all of us already. God created Heaven and Earth, sent Jesus to bare witness and die for our sins, raised Him up on the third day that who ever might believe may always live!!! God has also sent many other spiritual teachers who held similar messages of peace, stillness and acceptance but it is now up to us to live and bear witness, when will we get this? We all hold the power to do this!! The grace and mercy offered is limitless. It is our responsibility to create a life of fruitfulness and vitality; thank goodness our power is limitless!

We have the power to make anything take form, that’s the power God placed within us all! Yet and still we sit and wait for some kind of outer direction to take form. What is it that your heart is telling you? De-clutter you mind, sit in stillness and see what you’ll find – that internal compass you’d always been searching for is in fact inside. Your opinion and mental concepts is what separates you from your direction and ultimately causes more confusion. How will you ever trust which way to go if you continue to seek what your mental conditioning or concepts have to tell you? Your mind tells you all sorts of things, may even make you think its protecting you but fact is, it’s God, the Universe that has your back, not your mental concepts of heavily misrepresented facts.

This world has been going on for centuries and will continue to do so after you and me so do you really think our opinions hold that much validity? Why do we hold our opinions so dear to our hearts as if we are the ones who dictate how other people play their parts? God is the very flow of all that’s known and unknown. Our mind is limited to our perceptions based on a convoluted history, which happens to be what currently feeds our mental concepts and current reality. We sit and analyze all that we think is wrong, but who are we to say what’s right and what’s wrong. Why do you think the bible stresses the fact to judge NOT? Judgment clutters our mind and hardens our hearts. In order to be free and allow spirit to flow – quiet the mind and listen with your heart.

 

 

My wish for you is that you see, feel and know the value you hold. My wish for you is to see the beauty that lives within you. My wish for you is to push through your fears. My wish for you is to live life through compassion, offering love, non-judgment and living life full of passion. My wish for you is to be totally happy, vibrant and true to the very nature of you. Enjoying life, living a life that’s pleasing to you.

My wish for you is to know how much love surrounds your very being, after all that’s why God woke you up. My wish for you is to know that life is a gift; we live in a limitless world, lets not be afraid to take healthy risks. My wish for you is to know that life gives you exactly what you think it should. My wish for you is to regain control of the mind, which holds keys to unlock your soul.

My wish is for you to know that no matter what happens on the outside of you, it is ultimately to help make you, a better you. As I always say, life happens for us, not to us. My wish for you is to know that your Creator made you perfect, a special unique creation that can’t be duplicated – EVER!

YOU are amazing, special, wonderful and talented – believe that and live on those facts! After all we already see what doing the opposite has caused for all of us. It has caused us to have low self-esteem, thinking we don’t deserve a life fit for a King. It doesn’t matter what we have done when we ask God to provide a clear, clean and pure heart, we can then forgive others and ourselves; in doing that our freedom begins to unfold.

What the enemy intended to cause you your ruin, your Creator has turned into beautiful blessings instead! (Romans 8:28 Or that all things work together for good to those who love God, who; or that in all things God works together with those who love him to bring about what is good) My wish for you is to know your value and worth comes from what we believe about ourselves. The best trick of the enemy is to get you to believe you are unworthy and in doing that we create a life that mirrors and supports that very belief. Remember the thief comes to steal, kill and destroy and we all know what has control over our mind has control over our lives and begins eating at our souls.

My wish is for you to know the battle has already been won. Stand firm and take hold of your internal power that has been given freely to each and every one of us. (Ephesians 6:10 -13 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power.  Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.  For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.  Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground)

My wish for you is to get out of your head; it’s now time to let the heart take the wheel instead. For generations we have allowed our logic to run our lives and in doing that we see what the world has become. My wish for you is to know that God is in control – as the old prayer goes, God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot control.

My wish for you is to understand and know, regardless of what other people’s lives may look like on the outside; there isn’t a person alive who hasn’t gone through some sort of struggle or travesty. My wish for you is to see the worthiness you possess even though life has been seemingly unfair. Trust me this is a skill that must be mastered but it’s worth it, every single effort. Every thing we go through inevitably supports the growth, healing and well being which enables the life God intended for all of us.

 

 

What do relationships mean anyway? Nowadays it tends to mean I become you and you become me. We have to want and do the same things or it seems to become a little strange. No longer holding my own identity. I’m lost in you. You’re lost in me.

Do relationships mean I now need to prove myself worthy, while you suddenly become the judge of me? How do I spend my time? What can I offer you? What have my accomplishments been? What kind of money do I spend, but at the end of the day how will those things make your heart mend?

To be in a relationship is about knowing what I can offer while being open and upfront about it. To be in a relationship is to provide truth, freedom and acceptance to one another. Relationships requires sacrifice and commitment in spite of indifference. The sacrifice of time, unconditional love, ability to compromise, without losing oneself is what a healthy relationship is all about.

To be in a relationship isn’t for me to try to make you understand me. Relationships established in love will seek to understand, not seek to be heard and this is something that happens naturally. Relationships are to offer freedom to be uniquely you; it’s to accept you as you are with what you have; you do the same for me.

Relationships have turned into misuse and abuse as well as what I can buy for you. It takes true character to remain loyal, centered and unbothered. Relationships based on control, phony smiles, bank figures and credit scores leaves you feeling empty while the search for more continues.

Keeping up with the Jones’, talking behind ones back, are stepping stones to misery. Putting on an image for naysayers and people who have the same issues, this is nonsense, I tell you! This isn’t just about spouses, but all relationships. Unless the relationship is healthy and uplifting to the spirit, stay in your personal space. Live life peacefully and authentically.

Healthy relationships include acceptance, understanding, compassion and mutuality. Relation means I see you in me; therefore I am not able to view your weaknesses as my controversy. But, an entryway for growth instead. Relation means I have decided to see the goodness in you in spite of what everybody else has said. Relation means I don’t take offense and view you as my enemy but my friend, someone who has been misunderstood. Relation means to decide to let ego go, seek to understand and practice love.