Detach from all expectancy. Allow people to be who they are. Every individual is on their own path of evolution.

When we allow ourselves and other people to freely be themselves while offering acceptance of individuals or circumstances; We do one of the two: 1. Grow in love.  2. Separate in love.

When we decide to grow together in love, relationships and circumstances bring the best out of us, not the worst. Growing in love, we realize there is a continual effort to build one another as well as the relationship. All parties are aware of this and equally participate in the growth of themselves, their relationships and others. There is lightness of flow, happiness that stems from the heart and a willingness to give without expectancy. The relationships provide peace, harmony and unity. The choice to walk in love has been made the key priority.

When we decide to separate in love, we acknowledge the fact that we are not good for one another. The situations or circumstances breed anxiety and fear. The relationship does not promote growth or embody love. There is constant discord and the unwillingness to compromise beyond oneself. Criticism, attack and blame seem constant. However, we don’t judge ourselves or the other parties involved. There is no blame necessary, as we have all played our parts.  The good. The bad. The ugly. We are aware and simply decide we are better off apart, well wishes given. No malice, hatred or bitterness felt. We separate in love, while allowing true fruitfulness of love to take form for others and ourselves.

Awareness of either choice is key. Remember there’s always an effortless flow to what’s supposed to be. In order to allow that flow, you’ve got to move yourself out the way and allow our Creator to dictate what relationships and or circumstances come and go for us. When we allow, we then enable freedom that offers a detachment to the outcomes we have formed for ourselves within. We then no longer feel the need to dictate or control how things take place or unfold outside of us. We simply allow and place our entire expectancy on our Creator, never on a circumstance or an individual.

Decide to make the choice to remain aware our own internal compass, our own continual growth. Decide to allow things to take shape naturally. Decide to drop feelings of animosity, blame and bitterness. As all these emotions come from an unwillingness of acceptance, to what we think or how we feel things should have been. When we attempt to control the outcome of circumstances or relationships we imprison ourselves emotionally and mentally.

    Let go. Be fee. Allow others to do the same damn thing. Repeat! 







I never understood why people viewed break ups as a bad thing, oftentimes painful but, not bad. If we didn’t have so called bad relationships that lead to our painful break ups we definitely wouldn’t know and understand how to appreciate and honor the good ones. I say that to say this: Love should never be manipulated as a false sense of an identity to attain but instead love and relation is meant to be given freely, without expectancy or material gain; Love doesn’t cause us to classify, its meant to combine us instead. True love unites us, liberates us and makes us feel free to be who we are comfortably! That’s what true love feels like, indeed!!

Are we giving unconditionally in our relationships or have we just been giving of ourselves, secretly waiting to receive? Do you find yourself doing acts of love but becoming irritated when the gesture isn’t reciprocated? How about attention seeking and when your attempts are seemingly unnoticed you shut down, attack or even place blame. We then start to believe it’s not us, oh no! It’s just that our spouse lacks the ability to give us time, attention and love, the way we want. Do you find yourself giving and then taking away when an outcome didn’t go your way? If this sounds like you, forgive yourself and decide to develop a healthier approach at meeting the needs of yourself.

The examples mentioned above are examples of emotional manipulation and attempts of the Ego’s desires to change the behavior of your spouse in order to advance ones own personal self-interests. This behavior usually always leads to the demise of a relationship, also called the break up. When we seek to control another we destroy the free spirit nature that’s in all of us. Control always leads to ruin. We have all been guilty of this type of manipulation at one point in our lives or another, don’t self-loathe, just do better. I know this isn’t the type of love we wish to receive so let’s not make it the type of love we seek to entertain. Emotional manipulation isn’t an act of love; it’s just empty attempts to fill the Ego’s feelings of lack and discontentment.

The Ego begins to attack and the break up inevitably begins to take place. The person we claim to love has now become a participant in our ego’s destructive game, which is the link behind the pain. If we go through life looking for people to meet our needs, make us happy, provide our entertainment and so on, we will go through life looking at break up after break up. Why is that you ask, because we have begun to expect that our spouse’s become in charge of our happiness, joys, pains even our sorrows. People “break up” when they fail to get the other person to meet their internal and or external needs. People break up when they feel the other person could no longer make “me” happy or failed to keep “me” entertained; We often refer to those partners as being “just too boring”, its always one thing they lack or another if you let your Ego tell it.

When the Ego’s attempts fail as they normally do, at getting our spouses to do what we want them to, resentment, separation and blame begin to take form. We begin to feel a false sense of isolation, which stems from shame; the shame usually comes from the blind attack we aimed at the spouse we claim to love to begin with, all while becoming blinded to our true identity, which is ultimately the very love that we continue to seek.

We cannot place unrealistic goals on our spouses when we are the only authority in control of our emotional stability. Are we now becoming blind to the fact that we are responsible for our own happiness and also its sustainability, another human being can merely add to it but never can they create our ability to maintain it.

When we decide to give our power to sustain our own emotional well being to someone else, we have decided to become a light switch so to speak. We have given our spouses the power to turn us on and off. When our spouses do and act according to how we think they should, we are happy. When they don’t, we are unhappy and then begin to place blame and judgment based on unrealistic expectancy. Why would we give authority and place that type of responsibility on our mates in the first place, should be the real issue of debate.




The church didn’t tell you that you are perfect in spite of worldly view imperfections. The church didn’t tell you to allow this moment to take place in spite of religious misconceptions. The church didn’t tell you to love and accept your self as is. Instead the church told you to hate sin and if not, your love to God is in vain.

What the church didn’t tell you is that God accepts you, no matter what your inner demons tell you. The church didn’t tell you, we are all apart of generational curses that stem back to Adam and Eve, the Romans and the Catholics, the Slaves and the Masters. This is why Jesus came to let you know that your sins were covered by His blood and not by your actions.

The church didn’t tell you to allow yourself freedom, honor, value and love of yourself, no matter your battles and in doing this is how you ultimately go and sin no more in this spiritual battle. (John 8:10-11 Then Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are your accusers? Has no one condemned you?” 11“No one, Lord,” she answered. “Neither do I condemn you, Jesus declared. “Now” go and sin no more.) The sin is the condemning of oneself and others. The sin is in the separation and hate. The sin is in lack of love for God, by not loving ourselves, others and all of God’s creation – this is SIN.

The first commandment in the bible is this, 37Jesus declared, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 All the Law and the Prophets depend on these two commandments.” (Matthew 22:37-40) If the first commandment is love and the second commandment is love why do we hate the sin instead of loving the person and in loving the person, the sin has no choice but to flee, go away. You have already won a victory over those people, because the Spirit who lives in you is greater than the spirit who lives in the world (1 John 4:4) We have already won the victory over sin. Its already been done. It was finished with Christ. The enemy wants us to lose focus on that fact and fuel the hatred of sin in order to create more of it.

Hate isn’t in any of the first two commandments or any commandment for that matter and the reason is this. Love transmutes everything negative, everything bad, everything evil. Everything not from God can and will be transmuted through love and love alone, this is the reason for our creation; to know, live and understand this fact.

YOU are not a sinner. YOU are a child of the Most High God! You were born into sin and the sin you were born into has been trying to make you forget your perfection since the day you’ve been born. The reason for this is to try to stop Gods plan for you in this world. If you forget who you are in God, which is perfect, you will start to believe you are cut off from the flow of life, if you believe this lie, the enemy has won at stealing, killing and destroying the Master’s plan for your life.

God said, His people parish from lack of wisdom, lack of wisdom is forgetting who you are in Christ; When we forget, we separate, we parish. (Hosea 4:6 My people are being destroyed because they don’t know me.) The church has allowed us to believe we can change ourselves if we believe in a God outside of ourselves. This isn’t the truth. The church has turned our people into slaves of self-hatred and to seek worldviews, money, plastic surgery, businesses and the fame, using people instead of things. And while all of this is being done the church sits back and turns their noses up. Where is the unity and power in that! Are we gaining the whole wide world and losing our souls?? (Mark 8:36)

The power is in God, not our works, people and clearly not in the church (alone). Our works gain the Master’s power through our awareness of stillness and acceptance of the God that’s within us; this is where our power truly stems from. The church told us to pray, and this is definitely a good start but what the church left out is we pray, then release and go about our day. We can’t hold on to our future gains or past mistakes and expect victory to take place. In our presence, in the stillness and quietness of our mind is when God is in charge of our inner state.

The church advised to accept Jesus as your Lord, your Savior but did the church tell you, you too are already one with your creator? The church had us thinking when we so called commit unfavorable acts God, our family, peers; the world simply doesn’t accept us. They tell us, we are doomed to hell and will never be apart of the Master’s plan where heaven prevails. If we begin to accept this as fact, take it on as our truth, we begin to separate from the power of God, which fuels our real inner truth. In that you’ve exercised your free will for the enemy to succeed. The enemy’s plan is to steal, kill, destroy in other words make you feel bad, worthless, a failure, will you allow the enemy’s plan to succeed?

Of course not, we are here to expose the wicked ways of the enemy of this world. The enemy is now being exposed. The trick of the enemy tries to separate us from oneness of self, oneness with Christ by making us believe our acts have separated us but its not our acts, its our hearts; Our hearts become hard when we don’t like God, ourselves and others; It’s the sin that God despises, not the sons and daughters (men and woman of God). If we live our lives in our heads rather than our hearts we are not doing our parts and can no longer be present enough to feel the fullness of joy, peace and love that’s within our hearts. Stop listening to the enemy’s lies, you are perfect, you are alive and yes, there is a plan for your life.

The church didn’t tell you the greatest sin is this; to forget you are perfect, valued and loved in spite of failed attempts; at what you thought God’s version of perfection is. Allow God to perfect what needs to be perfected, but God can only do this when you’ve accepted and loved yourself as is, you’ve already been perfected. Accept and allow God to come in and take full control, in doing that is where you’re freedom will truly begin to unfold.



The feelings we carry within, why do we carry them –Where is the beauty that we truly want within? Instead all that’s felt, internal heaviness, a burden, a form of continuous attack? We constantly want what we don’t have but fail to realize we can’t get what we never had. We have to find it first within us. Acceptance. Love Trust; The qualities that weren’t nurtured as much.

Growing up in dysfunction, it becomes you. As a child, you didn’t know you were sent here to evolve, to grow and apart of your growth is the very dysfunction that’s within you and partly due to the family that God sent you. Thing is, it was never meant to harm you but instead heal, help and guide you to become the best you, the true you, to be aware and recognize the God in you. After all, it was God who kept you.

The trick is this, to change the lenses we focus with. Change your focus to see – your mother and father, they too went through the same dysfunction that carried all those similarities, similarities that link and fuel this painful cycle of attack. Lack, mistrust, fear all stem from those qualities that weren’t there, weren’t there during your childhood, when you needed them most. Understand this, it was intended and used for your spiritual growth.

There is a breakthrough in all of this – your position is to love and accept yourself through this. Understand you are you and you’ve stood tall this long, in that alone tells you that you have been victorious on this walk! The true champion of this journey is you, so if there is anything within that causes disruption, let it go, forgive –it will only help you, help you to allow your healing to begin.

It was all a set up for our good from the beginning, but we got lost and thought we were just helpless victims. The victim to life, the drama, the pain but all of that was just to help you to know and to grow into the masterpiece you were born to become; to become aware, in a world filled with delusion, blame and stares. Even this – although seemingly unfair – it is necessary for the final victory. Light always transmutes darkness and in this we can know that our journey and lifelong quest will definitely lead to the ultimate conquest.

The power of your presence within wishes to drive. Drive you into freedom and bliss, drive you to a world that anyone would be sure to miss. Your presence within can definitely take you far, if you just sit back and simply allow. Yet your ego has taken over your mind. You bought the trick, the trick to keep you in bondage. The trick to keep you in sin and what does it mean to sin, to sin is to miss the mark of your destiny and if the ego is in control that’s a sure sign of the enemy. The trick is to keep you in pain, that trick that helps you to continue to place blame. The trick to do everything but remain free from your sorrows and pains…. see your ego knows, all too well, once in control – it’s nothing but constant railroads. Yet we often wonder, why is life out of control?

The Ego has taken control. Your life, it is now lived by a mind of continuous thought. The Ego knows with mind control, there is nothing but separation, unhappiness and lack of divinity. I’m sure you don’t want that type of energy. Your Ego wishes to feed you one way or another because in that you’ll be sure to suffer. Your ego lies; after all, its main goal is to divide and remain in control of what’s inside. (John 10:10 (NIV) The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.)

Most of us are not aware; we think our ego is simply being fair. See your ego likes to justify, point fingers, never realizing its true destructivity. Why do you think it’s so easy to see, all the things that’s been done to me, because the ego has deceived me and lead me to believe that my dysfunction was all outside of me. (Luke 6:42 (NIV) How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when you yourself fail to seethe plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.) Yes, life can be harsh but once we allow, we realize there is really no need to be in charge. God is in control – just allow.

Now don’t be deceived the ego also works to help us believe, that we are better, and more valued based on the diplomas, degrees and net value we receive. See this is the ultimate illusion. An illusion sent to destroy the main conclusion; the main conclusion is a life full of beauty and bliss, yet this ego doesn’t want me, or you, to witness this.

Don’t let your ego continue to dictate the direction of your soul. So please, just be still and know. Be still by being present; be present by paying attention, focus and listen!!!! Take the steps to learn how to quiet the mind when you listen, in doing so, you’ll really show your ego, who is in control. The spirit within who wishes to live through you and provide a life full of abundance and riches. Ask yourself – who do you really want to be in control. The truth is this – be still, less is more and when you’re doing less your spirit is free flow and be in control.

How do I forgive you – you’ve caused so much pain. How do I forgive when each time I look at you, I am forced to relive the pain? Pain caused from now and back then, how could you truly call yourself my friend? How do I forgive you – when you’ve promised to be your best you, but this continues to be untrue. How do I forgive you when all you see is a means to an end, through me? How do I forgive you when you fail to acknowledge the pain that you continue to cause me, pain from judgments, or talk of how you think I should be. How do I forgive you, yet you can’t hear me? How do I forgive you when it seems your main desire is to persecute and condemn me. How do I forgive you – you smile in my face, but talk behind my back. How can you really think you’re helping me like that? Forgiveness is necessary and vital, this is true, but how can I forgive a person who has no loyalty in this very truth.

The only thing you see is your opinion of me. You can’t possibly know all the pain that I feel within me. Pain from misuse and abuse, pain from my parents too. Pain from the misunderstandings of this world; Pain from being at one time or another both boy and girl. Pain from abuse, emotional and physical, how can I continue to live in a world so cynical?

Yet and still I know, that I am to forgive. Lets see how and where do I start? I can start by remembering you are only the affects of what grows in your heart. So, it is my duty to remain in that truth and continue to forgive and love you too. But if you choose to continue to harden your heart and hurt me, this simply means there is no truth in you yet, to be seen. You are walking in darkness and if continue on, I will be walking in darkness with you and no longer have a foundation to stand on. I must walk away once I am aware of this fact because my pain runs too deep to allow this type of emotional attack.