I have seen far too many times than I’d like to recount the abuse and misuse we place upon ourselves. We can give love, attention, and kindness to others but fail to give it to ourselves. Becoming unbalanced, we drain ourselves and can’t seem to find many reasons as to why.
Generational curses and religion bind us with thoughts of who we should be and what needs to be. That sounds like pressure, and God’s yoke is easy and burdens light, so what are we missing? The truth is this, to sin is to miss the mark of unconditional love, period.
Unconditional love can not be earned. True love knows wholeheartedness and is unconditioned. Yet, conditional love is what people have learned how to give to and of themselves, producing pain and unfillable voids. We all have done this, so there isn’t any blame at all. We teach what we learn. It’s time that we retrain and teach in a different way. Do you agree?
To sin, means what exactly? How much do we really know? According to Wikipedia, sin is an act of transgression (sin, trespass, violation, wrongdoing) against divine or natural law. To be sinful is any thought or action that endangers the ideal relationship between an individual and God; or as any diversion from the perceived perfect order for human living. So, if sin is an act of transgression against divine or natural law – what is divine or natural law? Webster’s Dictionary stated natural law is: a body of law or a specific principle held to be derived from nature and binding upon human society in the absence of or in addition to positive law and divine definition is this: of, relating to, or proceeding directly from God. To miss the mark is to see division and inequity. To lose the mark means to judge according to the limited mental knowledge we consume. There is only one consciousness that knows all and sees all, the master of the Universe, God; only God can judge.
What is the definition of love? Biblically -1 Corinthians 13:4-7 New International Version (NIV) states:4 love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy; it does not boast; it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others; it is not self-seeking; it is not easily angered; it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts still hopes, and perseveres. And, according to Merriam Webster’s Dictionary, love: strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties maternal love for a child. We claim to love is unconditional, but all the conditions are artifacts we use when giving love. Situations are all we seem to live by; all we seem to know.
Do we love unconditionally, or do we condemn and hate the unfavorable? The unfavorable can even be us after all the worse condemnation is the condemnation of self. We cannot change the world unless we first change ourselves. Breaking the misconception requires all to be healed, not just a few. We are here to learn that unconditional is the only way to love. Infinite, pure potentiality at its best is love. Harming oneself and another by placing boundaries on the level of respect given, based on their circumstances and learned behavior, how is it that we claim to love in this way?
To sin: is not to see yourself and others how God perceives you, perfect. To be sinless: walk-in acceptance and love. To be sinless: embrace who you are, flaws, and all. To be sinless: avoidance of comparison; you are you, welcome, don’t reject that fact. To be sinless: is to see the love in another through the awareness in you.
1 John 4:18 states: There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out doubts. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love. When we are fearful or doubtful, we are not walking in love; but in disapproval of ourselves. This disapproval bleeds into our relationships, finances, and so on.
Fear wreaks havoc on our lives and will take over if we aren’t aware of what’s right for us. The bible states God’s people perish from lack of wisdom, and because we have agreed to the beliefs of the world as opposed to staying close to the spirit. The division leads to ruin. Ruin leads to death.
Retraining of our minds is vital in change. The bible instructs us to be diligent in retraining our minds to not adapt to the societal divisions of the world. We fear the unknown based on limiting beliefs of the world. Fear and love cannot coexist. Fear harms, love heals. Fear divides. Love conquers all. Our way of doing things based on mental concepts or conditioning alone will never work in leading us to our destiny. We must be present and aligned for limitless pure potentiality to flow within us.
But how do we usually practice love? I don’t know about you, but here’s what I see: Love is offered, based on the condition that things go how we think they should. Usually, we love ourselves when our life is in order, just how we like it. Otherwise, we beat ourselves up, feel guilty, and wonder what we are doing wrong. We compare ourselves and our lives to everyone else. We then push ourselves to go the extra mile, hoping someone would notice.
Simply put, we look for gratification and love in others. We love our spouse when they take the time to give us the attention we crave; otherwise, we complain and withdrawal, we might even be mean. We openly love and praise our children when they are making straight A’s and enjoying extra circular activities; otherwise, we continuously let our disappointments be known; compare and punish for falling short of what we expect them to be. We are courteous and respectful to the CEO; nevertheless, the Janitor can’t even get a hello. We praise the rich, look down on the poor. And finally, we walk around with fake smiles and shattered hearts, not knowing how to mend it at all. All human beings know how it feels to be in pain. We have become broken pieces of what love is supposed to be, and this sounds like loving based on condition to me.
How are we loving and complaining at the same time? We are not. How are we loving and angry at the same time? We are not. How are we loving, yet condemning, placing blame and pointing fingers? We are not. Choose to love, the conditioned picture of division and condemnation is merely serving the dysfunction of this world. Anything divided will not and cannot stand. If we are complaining based on falling short of perfection, we think we should be living up to we don’t love ourselves; this is beating ourselves up unnecessarily.
We are on a journey in this life, and we will get to our destined place if we know and practice the truth that sets us free. There isn’t any love in condemnation. To love is to be free. To like is to allow. To love is to grow. To love is to nurture. To love is to embrace the newness of what can be. To love is to love yourself and others exactly as we are, expressions of love.
We know to receive, we must give first. If we aren’t giving love and acceptance to ourselves, how will we continue to grow? Voids that won’t go away is a sure sign that love needs remembrance on the inside. The storm and the calm is felt within you, not them. So, in other words, anything that rests outside of you can never fill the voids that feelings of emptiness bring about.
Fall in love with the essence of life. Fall in love with the beauty in, through, and around you feel the nature of life in totality again. Choose to walk in love. Fall in love with the being that is, you. Far too many times than not, we see love and joy in everything but ourselves. But, how is this so? How can we see in others what we refuse to see in ourselves? If we can perceive greatness in others, doesn’t that mean what we see in ourselves? Love is unconditional. Love is you.